So I've made a kink worksheet that fits on one page. It assumes you already have a general idea of what you're into, and only need some help condensing and communicating those ideas to your play partner.
(Google Docs PDF)
Notes on use:
•I don't really expect you to write on it; it's more of a jumping-off point for talking and thinking. It's probably better to talk this over with your partner than to hand it to them filled out, but, you know, whatever works for you.
•If you're new to kink, it's probably good to think about your answers well in advance of actually playing, when you have a clear head and time to put your thoughts together.
•"I don't know," "maybe," and "let's try it a little and see" are totally acceptable answers. Don't feel like you have to have a super confident answer to everything. Knowing that you're not super sure what you want is rarely a dealbreaker, but important for your partner to be aware of.
•It's really a pre-negotiation worksheet; the purpose of these questions to give your partner an idea of where you're coming from and what you're looking for before you work out exactly what's going to happen in your scene. Once you know these things about each other, it's between the two of you to work out explicitly what you will and won't do in your scene.
Going from "so you don't want to roleplay, do want to use toys, and do want pain" to "so how about I throw you up against that wall and hit you on the ass with the paddle--we'll start slow and see just what you can take" is what happens next. That's the fun part of negotiation and it can turn damn sexy.
•Clear, explicit scene negotiation is a cornerstone of consent culture in BDSM. A lot of the recent talk has been about flushing out serial abusers, but equally important is making sure that well-intentioned people don't hurt each other through miscommunications or assumptions. A cute little worksheet won't guarantee that but I hope it helps.
...Not-kinky people, I will write a totally not-just-kink sex post next. I have not forgotten you!
...Why am I apologizing for being kinky? This blog is called The Pervocracy.
...But nonetheless. I don't intend to be all BDSM inside baseball, any more than I'm all gender or all politics. I value diversity in my perversity.